It seems like every time I talk to my friend from high school we end up arguing or I try so hard not to argue with her. Sure, we still have so many things in common but I feel like that we’re too different from each other than we were back in high school. That doesn’t really come as a surprise to me but I think she’s finding it hard to accept or to realize that we are.

She calls my job boring since she thinks all I do all day is sit in front of my computer and tinker aimlessly at it yet, she’s the one who doesn’t enjoy her job. I don’t belittle her job — after all she is a doctor, I just wish she’d stop judging considering she can’t even enjoy the fact that she has such an amazing job, a job a lot of people fail to achieve.

I’ve always been the anti-social type and I’ve grown even more so after university. I don’t like spending hours and hours talking to people. I only meet with friends maybe once every two weeks to go to the movies. She doesn’t understand that. She wants ME TO CALL HER to talk. Talk about what exactly? Talk about how you think my job is boring? You want me to try and explain why I love my job for the umpteenth time and you’ll still put it down?

Back when she was still with her boyfriend, she never understood why I don’t mind being single. Sure, there are times when I wished I had a boyfriend, but knowing how I am and how I like things, I am actually happy being single. She asks me why she thinks I’m heading for spinsterhood when she won’t break up with the boyfriend — who she doesn’t love anymore, just because she’s afraid she won’t find someone else. How twisted is that? And you call me lame? That relationship ended with the boyfriend cheating on her … wouldn’t she have saved herself the pain by breaking up with him when she realized that she didn’t love him anymore?

Now she tells me she thinks she’s in love with somebody she works with. Because she’s starting to read things into the what may be innocent, friendly actions on the person’s part, I asked her to ascertain whether this person is interested in her too or just wants to be friend. Does she take my suggestion? No, she calls me crazy instead! WTF? I try to convince her — with slight impatience after having to repeat myself over — to take some sort of action to discover where they both stand and she asks why I’m mad at her. I finally told her I wasn’t mad, just frustrated because I couldn’t seem to make her understand that she’s only setting herself up for misery because she’s reading into actions that might just be friendly on the other person’s part. I also told her that if she’s not prepared to look at that person as just a friend, she might as well stay away because it’s all going to end up hurting her.

Does she thank me? No, she doesn’t reply and I think I angered her. Hmm …

I love her, she’s my best friend from high school but that’s just it, that was HIGH SCHOOL. She cannot expect me to be the same person as I was back then. Until she realizes that and move on I don’t think we’ll ever be on the same page again.